Thickening

It's been about three months since my best friend died. The common ground we had spidered in just about every direction. From surviving by the music we loved, to a horrific wit... The last time I saw him we were at a Decemberists concert, he, having stolen an extra hot pretzel from the busy counter in the lobby was busied with texting nonstop and had slunk into his movie seat with no intention of being bothered with the show. The first act was singing about how there was "joy in repetition".... I found myself taking in the scene from an outsiders mind, feeling inadequit and stared at. He motioned that he wanted to go and I lied and told him I'd be glad to take him home. I dropped him off at his front door and found myself in front of his casket a week later. There were signs, plenty, but I ignored all of them, the stealing, the drowsiness at 5 in the afternoon. I like horse too, don't get me wrong, but I cleaned up a couple years back. He was the bad kid in school, corrupting and over cynical, too cynical to believe himself most of his life. His Fiance has since moved in with another man who was a friend of hers for a couple years about a month after his soul died. I don't blame her, what the fuck would i do in her shoes?
I can't get my head round the death of him. Even starting at his open castket, his body looking stuffed like a creepy doll, putting a flower on his grave, listening to his childhood friends eulogy and holding my friend Andrea's hand while she and I cried in the church, all of it just events, punctuated by time that I feel guilty for not having anything to say anything about.
Now, three months on I feel like I should do something to make his life worthwhile, but what do you do for someone that you saw so much of yourself in? I feel like such a big part of me died that day. And every day that passes things just mean a little less to me. It makes me up so ugly to think that all of life is this and the arbitrary meaning I stick to the sky. Like a neon post-it note: "Thickening"